Toward Ecosophy

With the exception of the Qumran monastics, who have not been around for almost two thousand years, Judaism discourages celibacy. It is not surprising that the rabbis you interacted with did not have a clue about "the real reasons for celibacy", since celibacy is not part of the Jewish religion and is not held up as a desirable spiritual path for anyone.

Judaism valorizes heterosexual relations within marriage and is more relaxed about extramarital sex than either Christianity or Islam. Rabbis are expected to marry and have children.